My mother and I used to have a very poor relationship. That hurt me very much. I remember one time I was asking the Lord why He even allowed me to be born. A lot of my mother's suffering has been because of me. I reminded Him that my name means God's gracious gift.
Then He made a promise to me that He would use me in my mother's healing from bitterness. I put my desire for a nuturing mother on the alter. I realized that I had to stop expecting her to minister to me. God's purpose for me was to minister to her.
About a year after I gave up my desire to be mothered by her she sent me a very precious Valentines Day card telling me how much she loves me.
Delight thyself also in the Lord; and he shall give thee the desires of thine heart. Commit thy way unto the Lord; trust also in him; and he shall bring it to pass.